Category Archives: Self <3
This has to be one of my favorite quotes, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” The reason that it resonates so deeply with me is because ….well, it is true. You will have people in your life that will try and make you feel like you are less than what you are. They will attempt to make you feel dumb, ugly, worthless, you name it and it will be done to you. It is really sad, but unless you live in a Disney movie this is just part of life….The trick is that you have the power to stop it. No, I am not saying you can stop THEM, but you can stop their words or actions from affecting you.
It is a hard thing to do but you can do it. When someone starts to make you question who you are, or makes you feel bad about yourself remember that this is just their own insecurities in action. They may feel insecure and the only way they can feel better is by making someone else feel worse than they do. So what do you do when this happens? Remember that their words are not a reflection of you, but of them. Remind yourself of how wonderful you are and do not pay attention to what they are saying. Do not give them the power to make you feel badly about yourself.
No one has the right to speak to you in a negative fashion. Sometimes you will have to bite your tongue and walk away, other times you need to speak. It may seem hard to know which one to choose, but the first thing you have to realize is that you are important and you matter. No one has power over your, nor should they. If they want to rant then let them, but do not allow them to feel like you are nothing. Their anger has everything to do with their own personal struggles and not with you. Do not let anyone ever make you feel horrible just because they themselves feel horrible.
Keep being Amazeballs! You Rock!
A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post about making small changes so that I wasn’t just skating through life. I wanted to make changes and do little things that I haven’t done before such as learning sign language and going on a picnic etc etc because I really wanted to make sure that I live a life that I am please with. Well, now more than ever I realized that this is not just a silly project, but it really is important. You see I just found out that Annie (someone who I adore that works with me) has terminal cancer. She has 1 year left to live and she is at peace. She says that she has lived the life that she wanted and she is going into this last year with a smile.
We had a long conversation and I will admit that I cried. I adore this woman. She is so full of life and just this amazing fireball and now she will be leaving us in less than a year. In this conversation she expressed how she has had a good life and was happy with everything she has done. I can honestly say that I have never met someone who could face death with a smile…then again I have never met anyone who knew when they were going to die. Anyway, she just reaffirmed that this list is important. That living a life you are happy with matters.
I challenge you to make a list of everything you want to do and just slowly start doing them. They don’t have to be earth shattering tasks but they should be something that will make you happy. My last post I asked you to join me in this challenge, and this time I am seriously asking you to consider it. You do so many things every single day for other people, how about you take some time out every day for yourself? Take some time out to go somewhere new, pamper yourself, learn a new language, do whatever it is that you have wanted to do but haven’t. You are worth it and you deserve to have the life you want. You can do it! Don’t wait for the time to be right because it never will be. You need to make the time and start making little changes to get the life you always wanted. I have faith in you. You can do it!
~You Deserve to be Happy~
One thing that I have learned on my journey is that if you do not do it for yourself and no one else it won’t work. Looking in the mirror and saying “I need to lose weight because I am fat” or “because then maybe people will like me” do not work. Sure for the first few days it might, but ultimately you will just begin to feel discouraged or depressed. Having all these negative thoughts running through your head will not help you. It will not motivate you to keep going, it will just make you sad. Trust me…been there done that. Everything I used to do was to please someone else because “if you just put effort in you might be pretty”. Oh and those were words that came straight out of the mouth of the guy I used to be engaged to. He would always have wonderful little gems like that. Leaving him was the first step to leading a happy and positive life….anyway I am getting a little off track.
So in the past I would try and “make an effort” for that other person. I would hate myself for not being enough and then just give up when I wouldn’t get validation. Let’s just say it was a train wreck and very unhealthy. The moment that I decided I was going to be healthier because I loved myself (yeah I said loved myself) enough to do so everything changed. I stopped drinking soda. I started going for walks and then runs and I started being happier. Once I stopped hating my body because OTHER people hated it…I began to change (and am still changing because it is a journey). My weight became healthier, my stress began to drop, and I just began to feel better….again, the key was loving myself and appreciating myself and my body for what it is.
I am not going on a journey to get the illusive thigh gap (here is something you may not know…some people cannot get it…it depends on your body type.) I am not trying to reach a magic number so that I can suddenly be happy because guess what? If you don’t love yourself at weight X you wont love yourself more at weight Y. You have to love yourself at whatever weight you are and the rest will follow. Just focus on being healthier (everything in moderation…yes you can eat a cupcake!) and everything else will follow. Just do it for YOU, not one else but you. You are worth it!
Keep being Amazeballs! You Rock!